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According to the Singalovada thaght by the Buddha, one of the duties of the
parents included arranging suitable marriages for the children. One more point
we have to be taken in consideration is the suitable marriage. What is the
suitable marriage? The marriage we arrange should be legally, socially and
traditionally suitable in every way. Legal marriage is in accord with the law
for matrimonial accomplishments. One's marriage should also be accepted by
one's society. And one should not do something against the tradition of a
nation one belongs to. At this point, the Buddha prefected his teaching on how
choose one's life partner as a wife or a husband. They are also included in
this Singalovada or the teachings of the Buddha.
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A husband should minister to a wife in five ways by being courteous to her and
addressing her in endearing terms, by showing respect to her and not
disparaging her, by being faithful to her, by giving her control and authority
over domestic matters and by providing her with clothing and ornaments. The
wife who is looked after in these five ways by the husband attends upon the
husband in five ways.
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She must discharge well her various duties. She must be hospitable and generous
kith and kin from both sides of the family. She must faithful to her husband.
She must manage well what he earns and brings to her. She must be skilled and
industrious in performing all her tasks.
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That is why a Myanmar Buddhist lads and damsels especially in rural life, has
to wait and see his or her life partner-to-be for at least three years or three
rains ( thone hnit thone moe ) so as to observe his or her attitude towards one
and the other. After three years, his or her prediction may be mostly true. In
our Buddhist society, such precious matrimonial discourses taught by the Buddha
are much more beneficial to us in conducting the most crucial for building a
happy and prosperous family life.
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See Also :
Mingala, some aspects of being auspicious
Mingalar Hsaung, the Marriage Ceremony
Some Legal Aspects of Marriage Under Myanmar Customary Law
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